new understanding of memories

A have discussed my desire to learn what my mom knows of my past and my father with two friends.

One took a very (forgive me I am not a psychology major) humanistic approach: write her a letter to get your thoughts/feelings out. Very good idea, I am seldom motivated to discuss my issues but when I want to it is not usually not a good time. I am not in college anymore, I can't call my friends at 1:00am anymore. I have a job, family and other priorities and would not welcome a such a call myself. So I'll type when it's hot and reflect upon my typings as needed.

My other friend took a very buddhist approach. Your memories are not facts, they are what you remember of an experience that you perceived through your filters (his explanation was a bit more eloquent, but this is my memory of it, lol.) If I spoke with my mom, she doesn't have audio/video recorded logs of the events of the past, she would share her memories of my past. Her memories are as likely to be true as they are untrue. Either way I would still not KNOW the answers to my questions. They will still be my questions, my unknown.

I tried to come up with more explanations for my plan to talk to her. It will break my cycle of playing along and not asking. Was a very concise reason to pursue this with her. I see my common behavior in many different situations - not asking.

Here's to breaking cyclical behavior